Whenever we leave the house, we are approached by many people. A quad stroller, or two twin strollers, is an unusual sight. People are naturally curious. I am a member of our local twin’s club and other Moms report the same phenomenon. There are different responses to the countless questions. Some find it frustrating whereas others are not bothered.
I am in the latter group. If I had a miniature pony and took him for a walk down city streets, I should not be surprised by people’s curiosity. If I found it offensive to be approached, I would be cranky every time we went out. I am so grateful to have these babies that I do not mind at all if people want to see them. I have had many nice conversations with people who love babies. I can’t complain about nice people who like to talk about babies.
From time to time, I will do a post about the things people say. There are the common things such as, are they quads? Are they from the same family? Did you do that in-vitro thing? Then, there are the unusual comments and questions. I will share two of my favorites.
The first is complements of a man at a store where we were buying baby supplies. He had more of a comment than a question. This man was pretty flabbergasted by the sheer quantity of babies and said, “Well, at least you get all the free diapers and stuff.” I quickly corrected him and told him that we did not. He seemed surprised by this. After all, on Oprah, and other shows, all the Moms of high order multiples get amazing gifts such as free diapers for a year or a gift card to cover all their expenses for the first year or more.
He must have thought that when you are in the hospital and the births are confirmed, you get on a special list, like winning the lottery. We did win the baby lottery which is better than free diapers for a year. But, alas, there is no special list wherein parents of multiples are supplied with all their babies’ needs. That would be nice…but, no. The man went on with his shopping, a bit disillusioned that what he saw on T.V. did not match up with his real life meeting with multiples.
The next winning comment came from a woman who approached us as we were walking along admiring the scenery at a local park. She looked me up and down, as people often do, wondering how I look so thin after carrying quadruplets. People inspect my stomach for signs of sagging skin, like what was shown on an episode of Jon and Kate plus Eight. She said, “You are so thin! Did you have a vaginal birth?” How often do you approach a complete stranger and use the word “vaginal?” My answer is never. This took me by surprise. I suppose I could have told her ‘yes’ and had her imagining a quadruplet vaginal birth, but I told her ‘no.’
Do you have any stories of things people have said to you? As always, comments are welcome.